There's a World Outside My Doorstep

Good morning and good night! Feels good sleeping under 4 billion stars!

It ain't no thing...small, unplanned events...like a broken tire pump...to start the week. Need air...find a way!

No, the heavens did not open up and bring rain...oh no, sometimes you push so hard that you don't even realize that you are drooling on yourself. Some days are hot and hard.

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This is the way to camp! My all inclusive camp...covered bike parking, laundry facilities, water, a fridge, and wifi!!

The best camp host...my brother!! We even made tinfoil dinners...like when we went on those dreaded 3 week camping trips as kids! (nobody remembers them being 3 weeks, except for me...guess I'm the only one with a good memory)

Nothing better than laughing hysterically in your laundry outfit!

Wide open space, a smile, and sun...uninterrupted!

Ugh, then this...loooooooooong dirt roads and cattle guards that cause interruptions...

...like crooked handlebars...

...and saddle sores. I'm trying to keep a smile! 

But then you realize you are living on the surface of a planet! 

Getting a ride in just before it gets too hot...and freezing, the chattering teeth kind of cold. 

And finding inspiration all along the way! Thank you Grace, Jonathan, Abigail, Maddie, MaCallia, Vallery, Jessie, Riley, Emma, Eden and Caitlyn...so incredibly blessed to be Miss Amber! 

How Many Miles Have We Wandered

In college I had, what I call, a mini-epiphany...at the time, an event that led to an awareness that altered the path of my life. It was an incredible experience, in which I'm endlessly grateful to have had. I was lucky enough to have another one of these moments just a few short months ago, but on a much larger scale...MUCH larger. Nothing mini about it. It was an outright epiphany...an incredible realization of love in the rawest form accompanied by the feeling of complete nirvana. Really. Many years in the making and quite honestly the most excited and peaceful feeling that I had ever felt. Something to be celebrated with the "jump around the house and scream with delight" kind of excitement! An incredible place of being vulnerable and open.

And...

...in a single exhale of  "I'm all in"...I was asked to set life, as I knew it, free...

Talk about crushing. And confused and bewildered. The light feeling of floating as the floor crumbles around you, and you have no idea what to even do, say, or think...you are just suspended in time and space. Then the heaviness of knees hitting the floor because you have no idea what just hit you. And like that, I thought I was setting someone else free, but really I know now, that I set MYSELF free...in the most simple form...

And it's exactly what I needed to get back to doing me.

And I've been reminded of it time and time again on this little adventure of mine. It's not really even something I can put into words and do it justice...its me out here exploring wide open spaces...uninterrupted. Endless miles of pavement, and the occasional dirt road, lend to an incredible exploration of the mind and the self...and what it really means to be free and to be "all in"...the moment we exhale everything and inhale what it feels like to be absolutely in love with life.

My thoughts are filled: passion, dance, family, friends, love, life and its journey, future, present, past, music, the kids I teach - who really teach me a thing or two each day, shade, and sun, sounds, moving, what's next, comfort zones, the lives we touch, food, water, home, Festival, the people and things that touch us, fresh produce, facades, the truth, being Miss Amber, uncertainty, pain, time, wide open space, cows, laughter, living, counting, letting go, forgiveness, crooked handlebars, crashing, tears, change, vulnerability, power lines to nowhere, simplicity, dirt roads, climbing mountains, smoothies, trusting, acting 16, tan lines, bruised toenails, rain, and most importantly...embracing the moment and believing in myself. Often it is hard and I get anxious knowing that things are waiting for me at home...but somehow I find the calm and know that for now I am tending to myself, and there is nothing more important than that.

I'm Thinking About Letting Go, I Think That Might Finally Be Alright

Things have such a magical way of working out. So much planning went into this trip...and it wasn't until it started that I realized there was so much I could have NEVER planned for...but in some mysterious way, I planned for perfectly. Not sure how it all works out, or unfolds...but it does, just as it is suppose to...and I'm not sure about a lot of things, but this I am. I've logged just under 400 miles and experienced things I never dreamed of experiencing. Some days were hard and when I thought my legs were broke and couldn't find the strength to unclip, I figured it out...and some days were easy, filled with flat roads, no wind and two mechanical motors (a left and a right) that just kept going. Like Gump did...except on a blue bike.

I experienced just how tightly I held to my comfort zone...and just how afraid I was of being on the outside. But almost immediately I experienced just how uncomfortable I was living within its confines and how I tried relentlessly to fit within its bounds. But I didn't know until I let myself explore...

And how I planned this ride within the confines of that same comfort zone...silly me.

Somewhere in-between the place where curse words become commas (this I am not proud of - and will blame the 9000 lbs I am cranking uphill) and the place where it all just clicks...I understand...each minute only comes once...love them each.

Week 1 is in the books...can't wait to explore week 2!!

Some of my fun, hard, and inspirational minutes from week 1:
-I wear Lycra (aka activewear) everyday...all day...and this is another thing I know to be true...swamp ass is real. Calluses are too...and not the kind dancers get on their feet. Anyway, back to that Lycra thing...the trip to the laundromat became an event...how cool is that!? And if you don't plan just right you are guaranteed to be left sitting around in your laundromat outfit for the remainder of the day while those Lycra outfits dry...cute, Amber, real cute. But the saving grace is, in just the way it was suppose to be, my laundromat also served drinks...so not only was I unaware of packing a laundromat outfit, I was equally unaware that I had a pub outfit too!

Official do everything outfit...swim bottoms and a wool coat(-:

-It was the hardest ride so far and my legs just didn't have anymore strength...the same trembling fatigue we get sometimes in dance class when we do petite allegro over and over and over and over...so fatigued that all I could do was keep pedaling because I couldn't muster the strength to unclip...unclip or fall over, unclip or fall over, unclip or fall over...well, I deliberately fell over. Resting is resting....no matter if you unclip or stay clipped in! And since it was a planned fall there were no purple casts involved this time! I laid there, clipped in for a brief period until I found some inspiration from my 3 year old ballerinas...I laughed hysterically at the thought of them reaching down  with their hands to assist their feet into a perfect 1st position....it was brilliant! I call it the rider assist unclip...it made me smile at the less than desirable situation.

Squares of motivation that keep me moving! Thank you Lorna, Rory, Jasmine, Taliah, Kallie, Amy, Ruth and The Skidmore's!!

-There is not enough food!!! I don't get up to an alarm clock, but I get up to a grumbling belly. I am soooo hungry all the time. I eat my meal and go back for 3 more tacos. 6000 calories meals 6x a day just isn't cutting it. But thank you friends that sent me on my way with gift cards to fast food chains that I haven't been to since high school...food is food and your kindness is sooooo appreciated in moments of hunger! I think the sauce packet summed it up nicely...

-when we stand on the surface of a planet...the true surface, not the pavement, or concrete, or sod...we realize just how incredibly small we are in the grand scheme of things...outfits and waiting and falling over and schedules don't really matter to the universe. It's just us...BEING!

-and when you connect with another human being - not a doctor or lawyer or stay at home mom, or Audi, or a degree, or the biggest house on the block - and you see that person, and they see you, for who you are at the very core. That is the epitome of being human.

-there was a full moon, in Capricorn, this week, July 19th to be specific. I am not into astrology but there is something to be said about the stars and comets, and moon, and them aligning in a peculiar way with our life's path. A full moon allows us to cast our intentions out to the universe and watch them manifest...beautiful minutes of letting go and refocusing and attracting energy that allows us to achieve our desired outcomes.

It's Your Life, You Gotta Try to Get it Right

This is about so much more than riding my bike, so many little things that keep my mind in a constant place of wonderment:

-the kindness of strangers offering home stays.
-the daily doses of support from those close to me.
-the immediate sense of peace from unexpected places.
-stories made on park benches.
-unknowingly placing a "welcome" sign on my 4 saddlebags. The questions usually go something like this...Where are you from? Where are you headed?...and they are all from differing walks of life - but every single person reaches out and wishes luck and peace, safety and fun, hope and inspiration.
-knowing what a flying pebble to the face feels like...exactly what it feels like.
- the cat calls in the grocery store parking lot, "Damn girl, you make that helmet look gooood!"
-the squares of motivation that bring familiarity. Sometimes laughter, sometimes tears...but always a smile.
-doing laundry in a sink and all the waiting that happens while it air dries.
-the realization in the coffee shop that I am the one who smells like cat pee...oh boy...

And the awe inspiring moment when I understood that everything I could possibly need in life, I had at this very moment, loaded on my bike...a simple reminder that anything else is noise and stuff and excess.

A few misc. pics:

Ewwww, the water was gross after laundering my jacket in the sink! At least it doesn't smell like cat pee any longer!!

The moment I realized it was ME who smelled like cat pee.

 Stories told from the park bench...carvings, cigarette butts, gum, and resting cyclists.

Thanks Larry...you sent me on my way in style... I'm ok if that does not happen again.

Time, Love...It's Only a Change of Time Part 3

And I did my best. And with a few speed humps along the way...I've come a long way. Some things are the same, some things are very different. Like clockwork, I'm reminded how incredibly amazing the journey has been, and I'm right where I am suppose to be. The good, the challenging, the messy, the success, and the growth. Life is definitely more simple, some of my doing, some doings just by happenstance.

And in these unplanned, crazy, in-between moments we call life, that's where this journey becomes the real deal. What I call the Scenic Route...not just the Point A to Point B...but the route with an undefined ETA and the simplest of directions:

1. Establish an ending.
2. Nurture the in-between moments.
3. Cultivate a new beginning.

Ultimately, the SR is where we learn how to simplify, and BE, really.  And how to let go of things that no longer have a use for us, and leave space for the things not willing to leave. Sometimes the route to simplicity is an easy journey - 1,2,3 and there. With other things it is a more deliberate journey, a one two three - inhale, exhale, repeat...undefined route to experiencing ourselves.

This past year, at the studio we had a no excuse zone. And lately, I've been thinking a lot about excuses (aka bullshit) and how often we allow excuses to interfere with our SR...on a daily basis. And how easy it is to recognize and get over it...if we so choose...

Get over it. It's the very subject matter of this blog, it's a saying I use daily with myself, my dancers, and my friends. I use it to encourage my dancers to keep trying and not give up. I say it with the sincerest honesty when speaking with my friends. And mostly in conjunction with an eye roll when speaking to myself. Especially when I'm being a little less than brave...or making excuses.

Simply stated: I've figured out that life happens, in a very simple way, when I get over it. When I stop making excuses. I accomplish goals, experience myself and things, become aware, and grow. And when all of these complexities collide, a simple life is experienced in the most raw sense.

So somewhere along the scenic route...or currently, what I refer to as my Reconciliation Ride...I'm finding my simple self again.

Time, Love...It's Only a Change of Time Part 2

Time to simplify, no excuses, just doing: First order of business was giving up my summer in Tahoe. There were far more important things in Idaho that needed my attention. There was a man and his two kids that I wanted to experience real life with...we had become pros at stealing moments, always longing and wishing for a time when moments weren't so fleeting. There were weekly Sunday night family dinners that I wanted to be a part of...every Sunday. And a yard that I wanted to mow. And a trip to the grocery store that I wanted to make. And preparations of a "real" meal at a "normal" hour.

It was going to take some bending and learning, but with my experience in following through with things, I knew it could be done. Driven people get things done with a little bit of intentional focus and a willingness to change the things that aren't so appealing.

I tidied up things professionally to benefit me personally. Success #1 and #2. This benefit was not only for me, but for the sake of my relationship...thinking back on it, probably even more so. I also relieved some pressure personally by learning how to say, "no," and allowing myself some time to just be me.

Slowly, but surely I was on a path of cleaning house...simplifying the things that needed simplified. And I found that other areas were gently and quietly falling into place...as they should (aka not as I had intended them too).

Time, Love...It's Only a Change of Time Part 1

Simplicity. Such an elusive creature that seems to rear its beautiful head every two, or so, years...

Eight years ago it was television that I gave up. Six years ago it was time to give up Facebook. Four years ago I was clearing space for 10 minutes of me time daily...by running.

Giving up TV was a piece of cake, I've never missed having it. Facebook was almost as easy, I only logged in one time by mistake...and that was this past winter. The running was not as easy though, it was a mental shift...and mental challenge. I found that I was not above running in jeans, or Chaco's, or while waiting for a table at The Stagecoach, or inside my house from front door to back door, over and over. I just made it happen. I even made it happen when I had a boot on my foot for 6 weeks from a broken toe. For that one, I'm sure I provided some comic relief around my neighborhood.

I only remember one instance when I thought about giving up...one time, that's all. I had managed to work a full day, tied up the loose ends with work and home and found myself ready for bed at 11:37pm. Any night that I get to bed before midnight is a victory. I followed through my evening ritual of showering and changing into pjs...and I released a sigh as my head hit the pillow. Another day in the books and I would soon be off into a peaceful slumber. But...my peace was quickly disrupted as I thought about my day and realized I had not gone on my run...and the clock was 11:53pm. I rolled my eyes and let out a defeated groan, and cursed the stupid existence of my running routine, and tried talking myself into many excuses, but none prevailed....it wasn't easy and it took everything I had to get back out of bed. But I did and went for that silly 10 minute run at 11:58pm. In my pjs. Ultimately, I just got over it! I was not about to give up the effort that I had put into the prior 300-something days of running.

I made it happen for a year and a half...every day, not a single day missed. I just did it. No harm done. There were days I bitched and complained, laughed and cried, smiled and loved every minute of it. It wasn't about going fast, or slow, or how far..it was about letting go of excuses and getting over the noise. No. Matter. What. Simply making time for me to do something, without interruption.

And I did.

WARNING! Excuse-time:
Then about two years ago things got really busy in life, professionally and personally.

A good kind of busy; a relationship, a family, a studio bursting at the seams, and me going with the  busy flow...something I can do really well! And then I blinked my eyes and looked at my calendar...two years had passed and I was worn out. Weekends were spent with competitions girls, weekdays were filled with classes, downtime was non-existant. I knew my neighbor mowed my yard...but I didn't realize it was every week...and planted flowers...every year. And dance families brought me dinner to eat...and the nights they didn't, I would have a one food group meal of chicken, at some crazy hour. And a mom that ran errands for me and did all of my grocery shopping...or all of my shopping for that matter.

That elusive simplicity thing that I had been trying so hard to cultivate, well I had completely lost grasp of it...without knowing or taking a moment to realize how quickly life was passing me by. I needed a break, in a major way.

That was this time last year. That's the funny thing about timing...last year, what? Seems like yesterday.

I Wanna See it When You Find Out What Comets, Stars, and Moons Are All About

A lot of you ask how this trip came to be...and as stated in a previous blog post, in short, it was an epiphany had when the timing of a magazine article collided with the moment I was figuring out what being "all in" was really about. At least, that's when I figured it out...but it really goes back about 7 years to a chilly January afternoon in Washington, D.C. And for those that don't believe in things working out in mysterious ways, just read on...it took me 6 years to grasp it all. If it were not for the following events I am positive, beyond any doubt, that I would not be on this ride today:

President Obama's first inauguration.
A flippant request for a reserved seat at said historical event.
A flippant request being granted.
Standby tickets on Southwest.
A friends sister living in Arlington.
A 5 minute shuttle bus encounter at Arlington National Cemetery with the Omaha Police Department.
Email exchange of pictures with OPD.
Cordial conversations spanning years in-between.
A RAGBRIA Ride (a bike ride across the state of Iowa with 20,000 of your closest friends) and a happen chance introduction of a dance dad from Star, Idaho and a police officer from Omaha, Nebraska...and the connection of a mutual friend.
A divorce.
Cordial conversations spanning months, weeks, or days via text.
Bicycling Magazine.
Epiphanies of being all in.
A breakup.
And a friend that makes you feel human.

...and that's how the blue bike, named Cheshire, came to be. I walked into Bob's Bicycles in Boise, Idaho as the owner of 4 bikes...and walked out as the owner of 5 bikes...and I hadn't bought a new one...I was confused at the salesman's statement, "this is your bike, you've just been asked to pay it forward...you can take it now, or later, but it's yours..."

I am proud to call John, an Omaha police officer, my friend...although we've only met for a very brief 5 minute encounter in our nations cemetery, I have never had a friend be as rock solid as he. Thanks for being there buddy, and for respecting the unknown adventures of life as much as I do. You are my kind of friend...someday you ride The Big Dummy and I'll ride Cheshire and meet you where there are 4 billion stars to sleep under against the backdrop of breathtaking beauty...that would be rad!